11 Feb 2014 13:15

Is your sister getting married?

My sister is getting married this year and I cannot wait for her big day to arrive. It has been an exciting time for both of us and I wanted to share some ideas and tips to those of you who have a sister getting married in the near future.

Helping: My advice would be to wait for your sister to ask you for help and advice. Being a wedding planner I really had to contain myself , stopping myself from jumping in and taking over. You do not want to fall out with your sister or end up arguing. This should be a happy time, an enjoyable one. This is a special part of both your lives, where you get the chance to really bond with each other, spend quality time together and be a part of the biggest day of your sisters life.

Maid of Honour, Chief Bridesmaid or Matron of Honour?: Maid of Honor and Chief Bridesmaid mean the same thing, chief Bridesmaid being more informal and signifies the maid of honor / Chief Bridesmaid is not married. Matron of Honor signifies that the maid of honor is married. Your main duties as a Maid of Honour, Chief Bridesmaid or Matron of Honour would include being the brides personal assistant, organising the hen party, help shop for the wedding dress, lead the other bridesmaids, hold the brides bouquet and handbag during the service, arrange the brides train and veil before walking into the ceremony and again at the alter, have some tissues at the ready (for both of you) and last but not least, be there to support her when she needs it, with both the preparations and on her wedding day.

Gift: You may want to get a gift for your sister but unsure what to get her? It is a lovely idea to get a thoughtful gift to remember her wedding and show her your support and love. Since you know your sister better than most, this will give you the opportunity to tailor the gift to her specific interests and choose something sentimental that she will cherish. Ideas include a photo album or scrap book, spa treatment, wine tasting, chocolate making class, champagne afternoon tea, picture of the two of you together.

Speech: Your sister may ask you to do a speech at her wedding. Don’t panic. Here is some useful tips on what to include. It may be different to other speeches as you will be able to include, funny stories, sob stories and why she is perfect for her husband. Have a girly evening and reminisce with your sister, going through old photo albums and childhood memories. Get to know the ins and outs of your sisters relationship with her fiance so that you can talk about why they are perfect for each other, you could even quote something that your sister has said about him.You also need to get to know your sister’s fiance a little better. Perhaps arrange a group night our or go out with some other couples. Get to know his likes and dislikes, what made him fall in love with your sister, any funny stories he has about them both. Once you have gathered all your information you are ready to write your speech. Make it heart felt and inspiring. Use quotes and stories from your sister and her fiance. Re read the speech a few times so that yo can get it perfect and build you confidence up. When you come to read the speech on the wedding day remember to engage with the audience and most inportatly with your sister.

Poem: Your sister may ask you to read a poem or a reading at your wedding during the service.  You may feel confident in writing your own poem, a lot of people do this nowadays as it gives them the opportunity to share personal feelings, support and love to that individual. If I was to read a poem at my sisters wedding it would be this one by Natasha Niemi:-

I Love You

Even though I’m older,
And we often see things differently,
There’s not a single thing
I would not do for you.
No matter where you are
And no matter what you do
I will always be here for you.
You’re my baby sister,
And I love you.

If you need any personal assistance with the above, please do get in touch, beth@yourweddindaypa.co.uk as I would be delighted to help you.

Good luck!

Love Beth x